A famous wizard once said, “Of course this is all in your head. Should that mean that it is not real?”
What is “real?” Who knows? Anyone can take a guess or turn to Google for answers, but in the world we live in now, “real” is distorted. It cannot be defined based solely on a string of adjectives. People are slaves to miniature hand-held devices, focusing their eyes on a screen throughout the day and lifting their heads only for brief replies. Children are born with computer skills and extensive knowledge of video games. We have lost the ability to engage in personal communication and human contact. We hide behind tablets, laptops, phones. Conversations channeled through these outlets are often negative and cowardly. On this side of the screen, our confidence is boosted; we believe we will not be punished for our unkind words. Collateral damage will not ensue; this method of communication isn’t “real.” Punishment may not occur, so the cycle continues.
Artificial intelligence programs are helpful, especially now when so many businesses are short-handed. They are also snagging jobs which could be available to humans, yet cutting the costs for business owners. Employment positions ask more of employees than before the pandemic, as many have not returned to work. Some who rise to the task are overqualified and underpaid. When I go grocery shopping, I engage with those stocking shelves or working the register because I can only imagine how tough their days are. I like to make human connections with anyone willing. In my past, I worked as a cashier in a grocery store, and it is far from easy. These people are real, and they fade into the background.
People are strangers before they are friends. These days, we know more strangers than friends. Friends are virtual, not “real.” Before this mess, times were simpler. The personal accounts of strangers were not posted online and shared with the world. Now, we have no reason to ask about our partner’s day. We followed them on social media all day, so there is nothing to tell! Couples having nice dinners together are not having nice dinners with each other. They are glued to their phones, though they sit across from their partners, occasionally sharing something they find interesting with the other. Heads down, eating without seeing their food. What kind of relationship is that? Is this our new reality? We are so cut off from our lives; we look to virtual reality. “Reality” is almost extinct.
In the case of psychiatric disorders, reality is monumentally different. I have visions, which may be considered delusions. Within a delusion, it is difficult to grasp reality. Does society devote more time scrutinizing a person’s “reality,” only because it doesn’t fit the mold? Will others believe my word, when they disagree? Sadly, in some cases, they will not believe the tales of a person struggling with mental illness. We are deemed “incompetent.” Everyone is afraid of the unknown, reality pushed under the rug. What constitutes reality? Is it subjective? Does it exist? I believe it eludes us all.
–SJB