I know I said I wouldn’t write an article this week, but I think it’s a good time for this one.
As I’m sure you are aware, Christmas is not about how many gifts are under the tree. It’s not about slaving away in the kitchen over the perfect meal to feed a hungry army of extended family members. Essentially, it is and always has been about the birth of Jesus, and God’s love for us. It is about the love we have for one another. Sharing precious moments and being grateful for the blessings bestowed upon us.
For many, Christmas is a happy time. For others, not so much. Many people are experiencing loss of family members, friends, and neighbors. I lost two grandparents this year.
For years, Christmas has been one of the most tragic and upsetting holidays for people struggling with mental illness. People struggling with loss, hopelessness, sadness, and depression.
There are many who take their own lives during this season of happiness and cheer. Happiness and cheer are not attainable for every person, especially when one is experiencing trauma, shock, or loss.
This year, especially, we are dealing with a new and different kind of loss. The Christmas season this year is unlike any we have seen before. Families are not capable of joining together to celebrate a happy occasion such as this. Torn apart by an invisible enemy. COVID-19 has wreaked havoc in our lives, affecting all of our daily routines and traditions. We were caught unaware by this virus, and it has uprooted and shaken us to our core.
I try not to get my hopes up, but feel it is part of my duty to cheer you up, and to conquer this fear and confusion inside myself in the process.
There seems to be a light at the end of the tunnel for us. If we can hold on for just a little bit longer, patiently waiting for the results of this vaccine, and the end of the year we expected never to come, we will be stronger for it.
We must stand together to help one another to heal and to grow from this experience. Wear a mask! Keep your distance! Do everything within your power to keep yourself and those around you safe.
I hope you all have a safe and Merry Christmas, and Happy Holidays!
If you are struggling with major depression and having thoughts of suicide, know that there are people around you who love you very much and never want to lose you. Spend as much time in the sun as you can, and find time to exercise during your day to increase the flow of endorphins in your mind. Talk to someone about your feelings; consider therapy; and keep an open mind about medication. Above all, remember that the end is not the answer. There are always ways to fix things with words, actions, and support from others. You are not alone! There is a light in the darkness. If you have no one to help you bear this burden, call this number.
NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE:
988
A message to all of the friends, families and loved ones of those afflicted: Pay attention and be prepared to listen. You can also call this number if you need extra support.
—SJB